Updated: Feb 16
I know what you’re thinking, I truly do. You think this whole blurb is going to be about how
you can’t find romantic love until you love yourself or that you should be putting the love you have for friends or family before romance. Well, that’s not what’s going to be said here, you know why? Because there’s nothing wrong with wanting romantic love. As humans, we’re programmed to want to spend the rest of our lives with the people that bring us the most joy and often one of those people can be a lover. It doesn’t matter what they look like, how many of them you have, if you get married, have kids or anything that is close to traditional, the point is that wanting a lover is natural.
That’s not to say that needing self-love isn’t necessary, but lack of it won’t keep lovers away from you.
The reason self-love is often shoved in our faces is because no matter who you love and who filters in and out of your life, at the end of the day you’ll always have yourself. You’re the longest relationship you’ll ever have so why not make it the best one? If you’ve found yourself single during “the most romantic time of year,” you may feel overwhelmed or a bit harder on yourself because you don’t have anyone to share it with. Except you do. Yes, I am once again talking about you, the best person to do anything with.
When you know who you are, you attract people who can appreciate that and respect it, most of all. You never want to put yourself in a position that requires you to give up parts of yourself for someone else’s consumption. In those cases, you’ll find that you’re being siphoned of all your wit, beauty, charm and energy. You’re a one of one and anyone would be lucky to have you in any capacity in their life so love the people that love you for who you are.
- Regard Tang